My Prosperous World

We all have been frustrated by that promised call that never comes. Why would he say he would call and then not do it. The date was great, you were really compatible, and you were on your best behavior – so why won’t he call after saying he would? Many time this will blow itself into feelings of rejection, second thoughts, and days of hurt feelings.

Although men may use this phrase “to escape” from what they perceive as a bad date, most will say it as an automatic end-date comment. They may have many others things occupying their schedule and not able to call for several days. Work pressures, family obligations, or even sickness can delay a call. Many men do want to call and make another date but until they fully know their future schedule are not able to commit and therefore won’t call till they can.

Today, some men may not have the social skills that you may consider normal. While they may have valid reasons for not calling after saying they will, they are unaware of the misunderstandings and misconceptions that can develop by not doing so. A simple nudge from a common friend may be enough to get a brief call to explain the situation that he may be uncomfortable explaining, and thereby relieving you of hurt feelings and several days of second guessing of what, if anything, you may have done wrong.

The whole no-call situation may also be a test of your reaction. This is especially true after several dates. By doing this, and gauging your reaction, a man can determine his importance in your life. Remember men, as a species, are very sensitive although they seldom show this to others. If you react, or overreact, to this non-call incident he can determine his importance in your life. Whether you want to accept it or not every relationship has a controlling partner. At the start of any relationship it is usually the woman. As the relationship evolves that often changes. If this becomes a continuous behavior it then moves from a test to just being thoughtless. That is a point when you have to make a decision.

As such, in these cases, it is always advisable to show such men that you have an independent life of your own and such small incidents, as his missing phone call does not actually pester you . It is preferable that you do not show your restlessness to him by calling him again and again but this should not be taken to such an impersonal level that the man feels dejected leading to an unwanted breakup. The best way is to show your self-respect to him, which is sure to increase your appeal. In any case, if the man does not call you regularly, it is best not to waste your life on such men and move on.

Julissa de Mayo is the principal and primary writer for the Soulmate Blog. The Blog is an open website to write, read, and discuss relationship issues with experts and others who may have experienced s similar problem. The Soulmate Blog is free and open 24 hours a day 7 days a week for your access.